For Studs Who Love Women Who Love Men: You’re Not Immune from HIV

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After finding my best friend in the hospital dying from AIDS in 2012, I became a born again HIV/AIDS activist.

My best friend is a lesbian.  That in and of itself dumbfounded me as it related to her being HIV positive but it also let me know that no one is immune to this disease.

So today when I heard the news out of Texas that a lesbian more than likely infected her female partner with HIV through sexual contact, my ears perked up.

I think it’s a misnomer to believe that lesbian women are immune from becoming HIV positive.  My best friend is a perfect example of that.  I know for a fact that she doesn’t use drugs intravenously nor does she sleep with men and she didn’t have a blood transfusion or any recent tattoos.

What she did and continues to do, like a lot of other Black lesbian stud women, is sleep with bisexual women.

And while I am not saying categorically that’s the cause of my friend being HIV positive or any other lesbian woman, it does make me wonder.

According to news reports, the circumstances in the Texas case were unique.  The couple frequently had sexual contact without a barrier and exchanged blood through rough sex with toys.  The women, both in their 40s, were in a monogamous relationship with each other for six months prior to HIV transmission. One of the women had been HIV-positive since 2008. Her partner had no history of drug use, and she hadn’t gotten tattoos or blood transfusions for five years prior to the infection.

Maybe this latest news will make a lot of these Black stud lesbians infatuated with chasing and bedding bisexual and allegedly heterosexual women think twice.  Then again, maybe it won’t.  One thing is for sure, if they are under the impression that somehow they can’t contract HIV, they’d better think again and act accordingly.  Use a dental dam and put a condom on that dildo.

And as always, if you haven’t been tested recently, gay or heterosexual, there’s no time like the present. Because as the great Pomona philosopher Suga Free already explained, if you stay ready, you don’t have to get ready.

 

 

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The Court of Public Opinion

  • Ke

    I would probably disagree with your perception of how she contracted HIV. Research have shown that it is extremely rear for female to female transmission, especially if no male is involved. However, I would not take any chances, which is why I absolutely do not date Bisexual women. In addition, she is bisexual and therefore sexually attracted to men. There is nothing I can do to change that or, in my eyes, satisfy her. I am a very confident person and in that situation I would feel insecure, so I would never be in a relationship with anyone who I am insecure. I respect everyone’s right to be with who they choose sexually, as long as the individual is of legal age, but I would never date a bisexual female. I do not date men so why date someone who dates men. Disgusting. Completely understand the article.