I never cease to be amazed.

This morning as the BET Music Awards were announced one song stood out from the long list of nominees as it was nominated over and over in category after category.

The remix of rapper Busta Rhymes’ hit single “Touch It” featuring Mary J. Blige, Rah Digga, Missy Elliott, Lloyd Banks, Papoose & DMX was nominated in five categories including: Hip Hop Video of the Year, Video Director of the Year, Producer of the Year, Best Collabo, and People’s Champ Award (Viewers’ Choice).

Never mind that fact that the word “nigger” is used one too many times in this song, but this is the same song that features a verse from DMX where he clearly says, “Fuck you faggot, I shot at you!”

After coming down off a protest over the anti-gay lyrics of reggae stars Buju Banton, Beenie Man, and TOK, I would be remiss if I did not point out the blatantly homophobic lyrics in this song.

Given the fact that in New York, a Black gay man was severely beaten and lies in the hospital as I type this brain dead and on life support, it’s fair to say gays are still the target of hate crimes in America.

So what does that say about us as a people when we glorify songs that promote this type of behavior?

It’s disgusting and a clear indicator of where we are going as a society.

I’ll be the first to admit that I love hip-hop.  However, my love for hip-hop does not mean that I turn a deaf ear to its homophobic and misogynistic lyrics like so many of us often do with the disclaimer, “I like the beat not the words.”

That’s a cop out, plain and simple. 

We liked R. Kelly’s beats so much that we turned a blind eye towards the very blatant proof that he was engaging in at best questionable activities with minor girls.

We liked the beat, so we ignored the fact that every other word out the rapper’s mouth is N***** this and N***** that and bitch this and bitch that.  Hey after all, it’s free speech right?

And we liked the groove so well that when Buju Banton said, “It’s like boom bye bye in the batty’s bwoy head,” we raised our hands in agreement and sung along, “Rude bwoy no promote no nasty man. Dem haffi dead.”

But let’s be perfectly clear about what we are condoning with our hips, lips, and chips. 

If you like music that degrades women, then say that.  Don’t hide behind the beat.  If you have no problems with using derogatory slurs when referring to your fellow brothers then own it.  And if you support murdering gay people, then say it.

We cannot continue to complain about our sexist, racist, and homophobic community while engaging in the very activities that promote it.