On the Disappearance of Mitrice Richardson: Her Sexual Orientation Should Not Matter

Mitrice Richardson has been missing for 13 days now. 13 days.

A Cal State Fullerton graduate who was living with her great-grandmother in South Los Angeles, Mitrice Richardson mysteriously disappeared following her September 17 predawn release from a sheriff’s substation near Malibu where she was booked
for allegedly failing to pay a restaurant bill.

Did I mention that was 13 days ago?

Now I knew something was up when I saw her father on KNBC and he said something about being worried about a girlfriend of hers that’s known for drugging her girlfriends. But I let it go. To me it doesn’t matter whether or Mitrice is a lesbian, bisexual, or even heterosexual. All that matters is that she’s a Black woman that is missing. A Black woman that’s been missing for 13 days. A Black woman who’s missing bypassed the Black community activists in Los Angeles until recently.

But apparently, the fact that Mitrice is allegedly a lesbian has prompted some to make issue of it.

And I quote:

What about her gay lover or the dirty dancing that she did ??? Come on family get honest about who Mitrice really is.

What the fuck does it matter who Mitrice is sleeping with or what kind of dancing she did? She is missing. A family is missing their daughter. And comments like that aren’t helping the situation.

As Black people, we really need to wake the fuck up and come off of this stupid bullshit. The life of a Black lesbian is no less important that the life of a Black heterosexual woman.

On any other given occasion when law enforcement is to blame for anything relating to Black folks we’re in the streets, we’re demanding justice, holding marches and town hall meetings. But not with Mitrice. This is just another example in a long line of events where the lives of Black women are not treated with the same sense of urgency by Black people.

Right about now, all that matters, all that should matter to everyone reading this, is that a Black woman is missing and it’s been 13 days. It doesn’t matter what she may have done, what she did, who she did it with, or why she did it. All that matters is that she is missing. Marinate on that and for those who know Mitrice and take issue with her being a lesbian, my blog is the not the place for those comments, because if you don’t know by now, that’s just one more thing Mitrice and I have in common. Now run and go tell that.

The Court of Public Opinion

  • Very brave post.

    It’s crazy how women get blamed for being victims of violent crime.

  • Shaye

    I was at a club the night before this story broke to the public. Her friends and family were doing so much even then to finds Mitrice when the authorities where doing nothing. It is a shame that in our community, being black and lesbian and women means that we are not going to be given the proper attention. I agree, her orientation, profession nor anything else matters. This is someones child who is missing. She seems to have been in the middle of a mental crisis and was let go by the police. It is their job to insure the safety of all citizens and they have failed. The fact that out African American leaders have been slow to do anything about is just and insulting to me an a citizen as the police who let her go in the first place.

  • zac

    yea it is very fucked up 13days n still nothin y dont they have the state militia out helping they do that out here im pretty sure, and yea idk y her sexual orientation should matter thats fuckin bs

  • Thought I would Share

    LASD, shame on you!!!

  • Martha Johnson

    HOW many days, TOO many days!
    Lord God send a breakthrough!
    A dream appeared to me, I spoke to Mitrice.

    Mitrice told me she was in pain. I will not go further
    Dear Lord God cover Mitrice from the crown of her head to the sole of her feet in Jesus
    hope! there is ALWAYS hope! “In Christ Jesus”

    :Mama do not give up HOPE!

    my address



    I read an article in people months ago, this case hadn’t been talked about. Then I look at JVM tonight and see her mother on there, it got me searching the net. I have learned she was perhaps a lesbian (said by her father), she was a gogo dancer (said by her father). She may have inherited mental illness (some what said by mother). It seems, I agree with a lot of people, mom needs to start being honest and say whats really going on, hopefully it ain’t to late. Her father speaks like he may know the woman who she is with. She was last seen on some one’s back porch who called her “afro” hair. From then who knows what happen. It doesn’t matter her orientation, I agree, but if they know possible woman she can be with that matters a lot. No body (thank God) has surface. In the steps of Jaycee Duguard and Elizabeth Smart, I hope they find her, I pray for her everynight.

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