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How’s this for conquering your fears about the club?  This is the closest I will ever come to swinging from a pole upside down with my ass in the air.  Maybe in another life, lol…

In the past, I let my insecurity about my weight allow me to believe that I didn’t have “the look” to be up in da club.  Yeah there are the Beyonce’s, but there are also the Mo’Nique’s, Jennifer Hudson’s, Jill Scott’s, and yes the Sha Ne Ne’s too.  I’ve learned that as lesbians we come in all different sizes and varieties. And as for the stipper’s…well if that’s your thing handle that, but no size two Beyonce look alike sliding down a pole head first into a pile of dollar bills should keep you from droppin’ it like it’s hot.  I missed out on a lot of nights out at the club with my friends in the past 10 years, but on the eve of my 30th birthday, I’ve finally gotten to the point where I can appreciate and enjoy the club as much as I can the theatre or a concert.  Hence my willingness to take a photo with a stripper pole, ha!

I said all of that because chances are there is someone out there reading this who feels like I did and may be stopping themselves from going out and having a good time because they might feel like they don’t fit in or won’t be considered attractive.  Don’t let your weight or insecurity keep you from going out and having a good time at a club if that’s what you want to do.  You’ve got to be your own fan before anyone else can.

I’m on week 29 clocking in at 164 with a little over a week to go until my 30th birthday…