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I hate to have to be the one to point this out, but…in a state that is so diverse as California is, can someone please explain why all of the media coverage surrounding gay marriage has featured nothing but white couples? I was so perplexed by it that I sent a challenge to my local daily paper the Los Angeles Times regarding their own coverage because every photo that I have seen in that paper as it relates to gay marriage is of a white gay couple. Well, almost every photo.

Yeah, that’s really going to go over well with Blacks in California who are in the process of be courted by white conservatives to support an upcoming ballot initiative to ban same-sex marriage in California.

What happened to diversity? All for one and one for all.

As I have said before, our worth as Black same-gender loving people in the gay civil rights movement, whether you choose to believe it or not, amounts to our willingness to be used in photo ops for websites and carry their message of “marriage for all” to Blacks, putting aside all other issues. That’s it. Those of us that have been willing to do it have been rewarded handsomely for our time.

When it comes to prime time news coverage or even getting ahead in the line to get married, Black same-gender couples need not apply. Those slots have already been assigned.

Tell me, what makes one couple more special than any other couple granting them the right to be first in line? Money, race, political connections?

The one Black lesbian couple I know getting married today can’t afford the lavish ceremonies that are being featured all over the news. Nope. They’re headed to the court house for a low key, low cost ceremony and then it’s back to work.

But no worries. They didn’t completely forget about Blacks. There’s always time to make the civil rights connection to the gay rights movement.

“This is the last frontier,” said gay Los Angeles Councilman Bill Rosendahl, who attended the wedding. “Women got the right to vote, black people got the right to vote, now gay people can get married.”

Up until the California Supreme Court’s ruling, it was all about diversity. It was about using the 1960s Civil Rights Movement as a blueprint to achieve marriage…until that ruling came down and they got what they wanted. Message!

But rather than be worried about the message that once again gay marriage is a white affuent thing, no, the gays are worried about coming off as too flamboyant.

“One of the things about the gay and lesbian community is we’re known for our outrageousness, our flamboyance,” said West Hollywood City Councilman John Duran, who is president of the board of directors of Equality California, an organization pushing for same-sex marriage. “But we’re under this incredible political pressure not to have those portrayals” right now.

I’m more concerned with the portrayal that all gays are white right about now.

But when white conservatives come around and start courting Black pastors in California to support the ballot initiative to ban same-sex marriage, who do you think they’re going to come running to to help diffuse the situation?

Sometime ago I wrote an article where I stated that even though the Black community can at times be homophobic, that I’d take my chances with homophobic Blacks than racist gays anytime, and today that’s even more true.

Just something to think about.